Posts Tagged ‘Secular Parenting’
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Major life events do not need to invoke religion or a deity to be special and meaningful to the individuals involved.
Seriously. I wouldn’t think something so simple would need to be said, but recently, I realized even more just how saturated our culture is with religious language and thought. People seem unable to express even basic human sentiments without invoking the supernatural.
skepticalProgrammer and I have been searching for a song to play in the background of a slideshow with Little Bit’s hospital photos. You wouldn’t believe just how difficult it is to find something that isn’t completely focused on God/Jesus/Religion rather than the special occasion of a baby being born or the relationship between parents & child. After weeks of searching, we decided to either go with something instrumental or Phil Collin’s You’ll Be in My Heart. There were hardly any secular (or even loosely religious) options available. Can people really not celebrate an enormously special occasion without all the supernatural platitudes? Can’t your baby’s birth, or your marriage, or your graduation, or your anniversary, or any other significant life event be about the PEOPLE involved, their lives, their accomplishments–the simple beauty of nature and humanity?
And after all the frustration of trying to find an appropriate song, I am even more frustrated to know that when he is born, well-meaning friends and family will be telling me over and over again how blessed I am and how wonderful God is for giving me my beautiful baby boy and a loving husband. Yeah. Thanks. But no. The true beauty is in the fact that my husband and I met against all odds, connected with each other, fell deeply in love, spent many years together learning, growing, changing, becoming closer and closer. That we, as an expression of our love, engaged in a sexual relationship which 8 1/2 months ago resulted in half of his DNA and half of my DNA creating a new life that is living and growing in me at this very moment…a life that we will love and nurture and cherish for the remainder of our own lives. That is beauty. That is love. That is happiness.
God is not necessary. In fact, it would be nice if we could just leave him out of the event all together and instead focus on welcoming this amazing new life to the world.
As Tim Minchin puts it, “Isn’t this enough? Just this world? Just this beautiful, complex wonderfully unfathomable world? How does it so fail to hold our attention that we have to diminish it with the invention of cheap, man-made Myths and Monsters?“
Tags: Atheism, Atheist, Parenting, Religion, Secular Parenting
I realize that this blog has not been updated in quite some time. I apologize for the lack of entries. There really are a lot of topics I’d like to tackle and I even have several incomplete entries that I’m hoping to get back to eventually, but circumstances have changed a bit for skepticalProgrammer and me. We are expecting our first little one in just a few short weeks!
So now begins a new journey. We are no longer simply trying to figure out how to live in the Bible Belt as an atheist couple, how to deal with super conservative religious family members, and how to sort out our own thoughts after having spent nearly all our lives truly believing and following religious doctrines. We still have all of that to deal with, plus we are once again in unfamiliar territory as new parents trying to figure out how to raise a skeptical and freethinking child who will be able to look at the world openly and honestly and come to his own conclusions about life and philosophy. What a daunting task! Really though, we couldn’t be happier.
The blog may take a bit of a different direction based on these changes in our lives, but I’m hoping to continue to write entries and have discussions that deal with the underlying basic issues and concerns that skepticalProgrammer and I have with religion and supernatural belief systems. I imagine there might be quite a few posts about the challenges and joys of secular parenting mixed in there as well though.
Either way, I wish you all the best and hope to continue the dialog that has been developing through the blog!